This was recently asked on the message boards of a site I hang out on by a person who is super awesome and near and dear to my heart. I responded there, but I decided I'd post my response here as well since amazingly enough, after 2+ years I don't have a single post on how to give a blowjob on this blog.
I'm queer, mostly dating genderqueer 'girls'/bois/trans, etc, but I will date born-men, too. It's just been less common. Since my last break up I've been on a man-bender, but oral sex is kinda personal...I haven't been with that many dudes and it's been years since I've given a blowjob on anything more than a dildo where it's the same in many ways, but different.
So tips for giving head! I know you have 'em. ...no teeth is a given, I'm not daft 
Go!
Enthusiasm is key. You have to actually enjoy doing it and want to do it. That always makes things hotter. Take time to look him in the eye and moan while you're sucking him off.
Start off a bit slow. Don't go right into the sucking. Lick and stroke his cock, getting it nice and slippery.
Use both hands and your mouth. Get everything into the action! Stroke his cock with one (lubed or saliva'd) hand like you're following the stripes on a barber pole, follow that hand with your mouth, and use the other one to play with his balls, perineum, and ass if he's willing. While you're doing this pay special attention to his frenulum, which is on the underside of the head of the penis. This is one of the most sensitive areas on most men.
To make it even more fun you can straddle his thigh while he lays on his back so that you can grind your cunt into his leg. Breasts brushing against body parts can also help. Really blow jobs are a whole body activity, but many women are only using their mouths.
Also, don't worry about slobbering. The more slobber the better. And most men seem to enjoy the slurpy noises that go along with it.
Keep in mind that these instructions are a jumping off point. Ultimately the most important part of pleasing your partner is paying attention. You have to pay attention to the way they react to you and what you're doing. Ask questions, experiment, and have fun. Everyone is different and that's what makes sex interesting.
(This question was originally asked by a cis-female, but the answer can be adapted to other genders as well. Rub whatever body parts your partner finds to be sexy on their body. Um ... not including your eyes ... unless you're both into that ...)
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Blowjob Tips!
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Great article, thanks!!
I am so making my wife read this! Thanks!
Much good advice. May I add a few things. This is a personal experience so of course what pleases one may not please another. Form discussions with other men and my own experiences here are some reflections:
-Most blow jobs turn into hand jobs. The use of the hand in the early part seems to increase and the use of the mouth decreases. Bad
-Most people who give blow jobs tend to use their lips. They fold their lips over their teeth to protect the teeth and then go up and down the shaft using only the rim of their mouth. A blowjob should be a full mouth experience. The best one I ever had was by a young lady, who had been taught by a sugar daddy, to rub the crown of the penis against the top of her mouth while she pressed and toyed with the underside of the head. Really an all enclosed feeling.
-Moaning in enthusiasm, especially when sincere, is good. After all, feel the softness of the skin and the tightness and strength of the erection. Isn't that a cool feeling in itself. Kind of like a binky?
-Deep throat: every guy wants deep throat and would like such passion that the woman pulls his penis deeply into her throat at time of emission. This takes practice and the will to learn it. But there is a tip. Take a medium size breath just before going down for the dive. Hold your breath while you pull his penis into your throat. Remove your mind from the notion of gagging. Relax, just relax. This physical response can be supressed because it is not needed. Gagging has specific uses to protect our breathing ability. But you know you are not in danger. You are controlling access to air. Just relax, hold it for as long as you are comfortable and then pull back breathing in while you do it. With enough practice it will blow his mind as well as his penis and enthrone you as the best of the best.
-Taste: Humans can adjust to any taste just about. My lover once said that: it just tastes like sex. Again, it will taste as you want it to taste. If you decide you are going to like it you may very well most of the time. Of course, there may be some guys out their who taste like the Fulton fish market and that's just a shame.
-I have talked to many guys who find to whole lick the shaft, lick the balls, suck the balls, tongue swirling around the head, etc a big excuse for not getting to it and kind of a put off. I guess everyone is different and circumstances may be different but remember guys want to get off. The woman who wants it, is happy, enthusiastic, eager and shows it is a real turn on. Imagine if you started to make out with someone and they started to seemed more interested in everything else but your buttons. At some point a little ravishing needs to be injected.
-Done carefully a little teeth can be cool as can grabbing the top of the balls in your grip and squeezing - to a point.
Anyway, that's just me. Have fun.
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