Friday, January 16, 2009

Men Wearing Strap-ons

I saw on Babeland and Early2Bed that strapons can be used by males, too. Other than in the case of Erectile Function Disorder, why would men use these? Is this a widespread activity among men?

There are a few different reasons that cisgendered men (or individuals born with a male body) would want to use a strap-on. One of them, is for ED like you mentioned. Another is for double penetration like with the Menage a Trois Fantasy Kit that I reviewed back in April.

Some men also just like the idea of not having to worry about whether or not their dick is hard and how long they can last. They may not have ED, but they just really want to fuck their partner until the wee hours of the morning. Or maybe this man has a partner who just loves his dick to pieces, but would like to try something a little different now and again. And instead of just using a dildo in hand, this guy likes to use his hips. And I'm sure there are still even more reasons that men would want to use strap-ons.

For any men who are interested in a harness that will leave room for their junk I would recommend the Menage a Trois Fantasy Kit for double penetration, or a harness that sits a bit higher up like The Crown Harness or The Commando Harness. Or if you're open to sprouting cocks from your legs you can also try out a thigh harness.

Is it widespread? From my experience working in a sex shop I'd say that it isn't too widespread. I do have cis men ask for strap-ons, but nowhere near as often as women and trans men.

9 comments:

Phil said...

Finally - someone who is willing to even talk about this. I'm one of thoes men who likes to do their wife with a strapon. There are two main reasons. The first is that it garantees an orgasm. Imagine being able to bring your wife/partner to orgasm every single time you have sex - frequently multiple times. Imagine being able to go for "as long as it takes" every single time, staying just as hard the entire time. The second reason is that I just LOVE the sensation of "sloppy seconds" - after the strapon has been in her vagina is stretched creating a velvety smooth and lubricated experience. I've come to love that sensation so much that it is hard to cum by entering my wife while she is still tight.

So now we both look forward to using a strapon EVERY time we have sex. I normally take two or so days to be able to get horny again after I cum so on most weekends I'll do her Saturday but I won't get to follow (I won't cum). That way I will want sex again on Sunday. Depending on holidays and how she feels, I can go days without just to make sure I can keep doing her every day.

I think the key thing is that I love the way she orgasms so much that seeng her orgasm hard is somehow more rewarding than my own. Yes... I enjoy making her orgasm more than making me orgasm.

So there is definately a kink to it. The fact that the strapons I wear are bigger (6-8 inch) than I am (5 1/4 inch) is a turn-on and makes me feel powerful.

Surprisingly you quickly get a feel for the strapon and you can feel it penetrating, you can feel how far in you are inserting the dildo and you can feel as you partner expands to take it. After a while you can even feel the head rubbing along your partner's g-spot. Just try that with a penis!!

Here are some tips that we have learnt with time:
1. Get a vibrating one.
2. Get a 6 inch strapon (at least to start with).
3. Get a little variety.

Garnet Joyce said...

Phil,

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

Phil said...

No - thank you again for posting a real (honest0 answer. Your explanation sums it up accurately.

Anonymous said...

Great comments Phil. I was getting erectile issues so started using a hollow one. Best thing I ever did. I should have used one years ago.

John

Garnet Joyce said...

So happy that men are sharing their experiences here!

TJ said...

I did this for the first time the other day with AMAZING results.
My girlfriend has frequently brought up wanting double penetration, and we tried it with another guy one time but it was logistically kind of difficult.
Anyway, I wore the strap on a few inches above my cock, and started with my real cock in her vagina, then used the strap on in her vagina, then back to my cock, then back to the strap on, etc...
Once she was way beyond turned on, I double penetrated her (the bigger dildo in her vagina and my cock in her ass). Apparently every one of her roomates in the three story building heard her scream, gasps, and moans (because they congratulated me on 'whatever it was I did' later that day).
Afterwords, she ended up getting emotional and crying for about an hour and saying it was the best sex she'd ever had.

I recommended any man (whos woman enjoys anal penetration) who wants to give his woman great pleasure, to give this a try.

Anonymous said...

I am a married tgirl lesbian and my wife and i both wear strapons when we want to be penetrated which isn't all the time. Sometimes we use vibrators and other toys. Neither of us needs something in us to achieve an orgasm. I wear a strapon because as a (woman)I don't have the ability to get hard. We use strapons like any other lesbian couple would.
Just another reason to wear one.

westburbscouple said...

Many thanks for this subject. My wife and I both LOVE having sex with me wearing a strap-on harness. For us, it's a size issue. I'm an average-sized man (about 5" and normal girth...maybe an inch) but my wife prefers much larger (her favorite dildo is 8" in usable length and 2" thick). For my part, I absolutely love the feeling of my wife being very loose.

Like Phil and his wife, this is an every-time thing, rather than simply an occasional kink. Frankly, I'd never want to go back, nor would my wife. When she tells me that she can't wait to fuck my brains out, it's understood that I'll be wearing the harness. She has crazy-intense multiple orgasms with regularity. After she's completely spent, I get to finish off inside her. By the time I penetrate her with my own dick, she's totally fulfilled. At that point, she's physically and emotionally spent from multiple orgasms. As she's "coming down" or completely spent from her sexual high, she's in a bit of cuddle-mode as I grunt in full-on lust. It's a very, very sexy dynamic. Eye contact makes this dynamic particularly erotic. She's satiated and watching with idle curiosity as I breathlessly -- and ineffectively -- thrust. A knowing and understanding smile, even a friendly giggle, usually puts me over the top.

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