Tuesday, February 12, 2008

First Time Anal Explorers

Dear Garnet,
I am interested in exploring anal stimulation/penetration with toys. My girlfriend is excited to play with me in this way too. What advice can you give a couple starting to explore this?

Go slow and use a lot of lube. Patience is extremely important. The second one partner jumps the gun on the other partner's ass means the end of ass play for awhile. Remember that it is always better to go too slow and have your partner beg for more (hot!) than to go too fast and hurt them.

If you feel any pain at all, stop what you're doing and SLOWLY remove whatever is in your bottom. NEVER use any sort of numbing creams, lubes, or gels because if it hurts there is a good reason for it. Do use a thick water-based lube like Maximus.

Make sure that both you and your partner are very aroused before starting any sort of penetration of the anus. It will be a lot more pleasurable than starting cold. On that note, it is also best to start with a finger and work your way up to a toy.

When looking for butt toys make sure you are buying good quality toys, preferably silicone, with a flared base. Being a beginner, you should definitely stick to small dildos, butt plugs, and anal beads. Males can also try the Aneros Prostate Massager. I've heard great things about it and certain models are great for beginners. They're a little pricey, but thats because they're specifically designed for prostate stimulation. I'd actually love if I could get a willing male to try one out and review it for me. Any takers?

And above all, just like anything in a relationship, share an open honest dialogue. Communicate with each other on what feels good and what doesn't.


Anonymous said...

Excellent advice!

Anonymous said...


Followed you here from EBPM.
and based from your advise went to look at Early 2 bed. I'm not sure if its because of being feminist run or due to the wonderful reviewers like yourself, they are one of the best sex toy shops that I have found.


I have an Aneros MGX and I think it is great. I have experimented with other dildos and plugs and I find the Aneros to be much more comfortable. I have not experienced the euphoric and trance like states that some of the testimonials on the aneros site talk about. I can definitely say there is a difference in my orgasm when using the aneros.


Keep up the great work Garnet.

Dan in vegas