Improving your Cunnilingus Skills

In an ever growing world, for those looking to improve what oral skills they may have, what advice can you give to someone who wishes to improve their oral skills when going down on a woman?

1. Communication
2. Listen
3. Watch
4. Learn
5. Experiment

My advice above all advice on anything when it comes to learning how to better please your partner is communication. Ask her what she wants. If she doesn't have any ideas experiment with different things and have her tell you what feels good and what doesn't. People seem to have a fear of talking to their partner and asking them what they like, but how else are you supposed to figure it out? No one should just expect to know how to please their partner and no one should expect that their partner should just know what to do. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship and a healthy sex life.

Listen to your partner. Don't just listen to what she is telling you; listen to her breathing and her moaning. Pay attention to the sounds she is making.

Watch your partner. Watch her body to see how it moves and responds to what you're doing. Are her hips tilting toward you? If so you're probably doing a great job. Are her hips pulling away? You're probably doing too much too fast. Watch her hands, her writhing. Watching your partner's reactions to what you are doing for her is not only incredibly sexy, it is also very informative.

If you want to learn more techniques that maybe you and your partner haven't thought about there are lots of resources out there. If you live in a big liberal city look into workshops that may be held at places like feminist sex toy shops. Early to Bed in Chicago and Good Vibrations in San Francisco, for example, both hold lots of different workshops about sex. Books are another great option. I highly recommend The Guide to Getting it On by Paul Joannides. It is really an amazing book that contains all things sexual. It has history, attitudes, anatomy, how to, etc. Another book to pick up that specifically deals with oral sex is She Comes First by Ian Kerner.

Just remember that you shouldn't be afraid to experiment to figure out what works for your partner. Try adding sex toys into the mix as well. A mini vibrating bullet under your tongue can be quite magical. Try teasing her more before you even get to her vulva. Make her beg you to lick her clit. You can even experiment with changing the temperature of your mouth by drinking something cold or hot right before you go down on her. Just make sure that what you're drinking doesn't have sugar in it as that could cause problems for her.

And above all, have fun! If you're not having fun it is not any fun for the receiver.