Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Small Breasts- To Implant or Not to Implant

Boob jobs. Do you think its superficial to think it may/may not increase one's self esteem?

In all honesty, its something I've considered. Half the time I don't feel very "womanly" because I barely fill an A. All that gorgeous lingerie that's out there, I can't wear. I have a bunch that I have to rig to fit, and at that point, they really don't look attractive. My husband thinks mine are fine, but I feel superficial for thinking this way. It does sort of effect our sex life, because I don't feel that attractive. I just almost feel like if I had some hot C's I'd probably dress less boyish and maybe even stand up straight. Hell, if I had boobs I'd probably play with them myself!

I dunno. I talked about it with my husband, and we've pulled together that its part of the reason I hate porn too. The acts themselves can turn us both on, but knowing that I look next to nothing like those girls kills me. Its such a stupid thought to have, but its honestly the thought that goes through my mind. Then I beat up on him for looking. And, I don't want to be like that.

He's supporting the idea if it will make me feel that good. This of course wouldn't happen until somewhere later down the road. He agreed it would be awesome to see me wearing some pretty lingerie, and he'd probably buy more. Right now its like I'm a 12 year old girl wearing a training bra! (and I seriously do have one somewhere, its one of my better fitting bras.)
I guess just throw me some thoughts. Not sure if boobs would actually improve anything or not, and sadly, I feel like my self esteem would improve. so yeah, between you and me...
I want some freakin' bazongas!!!

Let me start off by saying that, just like super models, most normal people don't look like porn stars. Mainstream porn stars have had so many nips and tucks that you're not sure which parts of them are real or not anymore. So, for the love of god, please don't compare yourself to them OR to super models.

Now, that being said, there are actually lots of lovely porn models and actresses that have small breasts and are both sexy and cute. Scott Owens, owner of EroticBPM has let me troll around on his site in search of pictures of hot small breasted women for your viewing pleasure in order to prove a point. I will be posting pics of these hot models throughout this post and I dare you to tell me that any of them look any less hot because of their small breasts. The reality is that you're just looking at the wrong porn, which I think a lot of people are doing. Mainstream porn is SOOOO not where it is at in the world of hotness!

First, lets address the lingerie issue. Small breasts are actually often easier to find lingerie for. You just have to know what you're looking for. Stop focusing on the tits and look for other parts of your body to accentuate. Large breasted women have to find lingerie that is supportive and has underwire and possibly padding in order to keep the girls up, but you don't need that. Look for stuff that offers little or no support. And definitely accentuate the booty, tummy, and thighs; the things that make you feel sexy and womanly.

Or even think outside the box and find stuff that may not conventionally be considered lingerie, but looks awesome on you.

Now, lets address your sex life. You feel like if only you had a great pair of C cups you'd be a fiery vixen in bed. I think that there is probably a huge population of women who feel something similar. If only I had a bigger/smaller butt/chest/lips/thighs/hips/stomach or longer/shorter legs/hair/torso ... etc etc etc. I think there are very few women out there who think they're perfect and think that "if only" this one thing was different THEN they'd be unstoppable! We all have at least some self-esteem issues and really, that's how the consumerism works. If we were all happy all the time we wouldn't buy as much useless crap as we do now.

And what makes you think that you'll stop at a new pair of tits? Maybe once you get those you'll start thinking that your thighs are too fat or your lips are too small. When does it end? And is it really worth it? Are there ways to learn to love the body that you have?

Try looking at real breasts of all kinds of women - large and small breasts with different shapes, colors, textures, and gravity effects. Here is a gallery of non-sexualized pictures of breasts. This can help you to realize what is real instead of always looking at porn stars. Also, try finding things that make your breasts feel good. Is there a special way you like to have your nipples pinched? Do you like it when your husband caresses them? Or even, how they feel when you take a hot bath. Finding pleasure in the breasts that you have can make you fall in love with them and accept them for what they are. Especially with the knowledge that implants can often decrease sensation in your breasts and nipples.

Now, the reason that I feel so strongly about this kind of thing is that I feel that everyone should learn to love the body that they have. I think it makes us all very unhappy to go around feeling like we're missing something or would be better if only ... Whats important is to be healthy and happy and find pleasure in what we have. We can't truly enjoy sex if we can't embrace our bodies. I've dated several women who wouldn't let me see them naked. They would go to great lengths to keep the lights out and under the covers so that I couldn't see them. But I WANTED to see them! That is, after all, why I was having sex with them. I found them very attractive and wanted to see their bodies. No matter what they thought was wrong with them, I found them hot. But what's even hotter is someone with confidence.

I know there are a lot of people who say that they're down with body modification of all kinds. And you know what, I disagree with that stance. I think tattoos and piercings and the like are pretty rad. I think they are a great way to express individuality. Granted, not everyone goes the individual route and gets tribal on the small of their back. But in general, its a way of expressing yourself. I see plastic surgery as a way to try to look like everyone else. This is of course not always the case, but I feel like a lot of people who get plastic surgery are trying to reach some sort of mainstream beauty ideal. Then there's also the fact that it is SURGERY. There are a ton of risks. You could die! Seriously. Is it really worth it? People seem to forget that you can actually die from plastic surgery.

So, in the end, do I think its superficial? Yes, I most certainly do. But, its also your decision and I want you to be happy with whatever decision you ultimately make. But I want you to really think about it. I know women who've had breast implants and they seem to be happy with them. Does it make their life better? I don't know. I'd have to actually be them to really know that.

And now I'm just going to post more pics of hot small breasted women just for the hell of it. Enjoy!

PS I'm going to send you 2.5 hours of free porn minutes from HotMoviesForHer.com in hopes that you can find some porn that features small breasted women that you think is totally hot.

Stay tuned everyone for your chance to win free porn! I will be announcing a contest later this week!


Anonymous said...

Thank you! I hate it when normal, attractive women feel they must augment their beautiful bodies with surgery. You are already fuckable, why change it with fake parts?

rob8 said...

I have to agree. Hotness is in the eye of the beholder. As long as your hubby is happy you should be happy. Been years to get my wife to see this way, but she is starting to be happy with her body because she know how happy I am with her body.

Kevin Smith said...

I have always had a thing for slim, athletic women. Until I met my wife, I don't think I dated anyone bigger than a b-cup. Hell, I think Milla Jovovich is one of the hottest women on the planet - and granted, 32b is still bigger than an A cup, she's far from what anyone would call busty. The in-text response talking about choosing the right lingerie - that's very accurate. You need to choose what accentuates your favorite features. take a cue from those pictures posted. Those women are sexy. It's way less about bra size then it is about confidence.

Raquel said...

Getting an augmentation is no more superficial than putting on makeup, dying your hair, going to the tanning salon, getting your nails done, wearing high heels or buying that envy evoking designer piece for your closet. Being that it does cost significantly more, this kind of enhancement is less attainable, but is essentially just the same. I went from a B to a C and the slightest improvement made a huge difference. It improved my sexual confidence, my ability to fill out clothes properly, and it even increased my income. I've had mine for 10 years now (the only cosmetic surgery I ever had) and it was well worth it. I'll be happy to get them replaced when it needs to be done (it's unavoidable) but am perfectly happy in the meantime.

Garnet Joyce said...

Thank you Raquel for sharing. I'm glad you're happy with yours. I'm not completely against implants. I just don't like feeling like everyone is trying to achieve the same beauty goals. Does that make sense?

However, I would argue that getting implants is a much higher risk than anything else you mentioned except for maybe tanning. Those other things aren't going to kill you, but surgery definitely can.

Anonymous said...

Great post. I LOVE women with smaller breasts. I prefer an A or small B. I don't get what people see in big C or larger. Implants ruin the look. Women - please stay natural - there are MANY guys out there that PREFER smaller breasts.

Anyone seen a fat man with breasts? There's nothing necesarily feminine/womanly about large breasts.


Garnet Joyce said...

Ok guys not really what I was going for here, but whatevs. Glad you enjoyed the post.